The Care and Feeding of Pet Peeves

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Make no mistake. It takes a good deal of our mental energy to maintain the little irritant places in our minds we like to call our pet peeves.

We can feel very indignant about having earned them and can justify them in a flash because we are so well rehearsed. But just like a pet of any variety they require nurturing and care on a regular basis. Then there is that factor of people actually looking like their pets. We can ...

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Going With the Flow

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Going with the flow. That’s something we’ve heard a lot when struggling against…whatever.

Why is that so hard for us to do? Because we have been trained that we need to do and control to survive and get ahead. Not just trained by life experience but by the very structure of our brain and its resulting operation. Millions of years of ancestry that learned how to survive and passed this knowledge along through our very DNA and thereby the structure that ...

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Getting Specific About Meditation

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So in this second month and looking at what we’ve covered thus far in second step thinking, I’d like to get more specific about what it means to have a “daily practice that develops my body, mind, heart, and soul”. This consists not only of new ways of conducting our outer lives but also, as we have begun to examine in Time for a Higher Power  and then Continue Reading →

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Time for a Higher Power

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In following the suggestion that the most effective recovery programs include both 12 step program involvement and personal/group counseling. I want to present a look at the second step here. I commented on the first Step in the post First Things First.

As I stated there, these 12 Step Principles are especially effective when they are stated in an integral way. That is, non-specific to any one area of addictive or unhealthy behaviors that create a ...

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Flipping the Switch

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In discussing the change that comes into a life in recovery we can find many common elements. People comment all the time that they went to a meeting and heard “their story”. They thought they were alone and unique but then find others stories and realizations about their lives to all too familiar. the characters may be different but the story is the same.

There are the common stories of ‘hitting bottom”. The bottom… when we come to a place that ...

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Moving Toward Clarity

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Our Starting Line is all about clarity. The clarity gained in recovery and all the new meanings that word has for us. The new meanings it has for us now and will have as we gain more of it.

There is clarity of thought of course. Not being dope sick, hung over or in full on regret and guilt mode over an unhealthy behavior is an obvious leap forward in clarity. Removing this weight frees the mind to use its energy ...

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Working Together With Ourselves

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When someone crosses the threshold of change, or even contemplates it, there is a sense of conflict. A battle between the two parts that seem to make up “us”. One part wants to be sober and one part keeps driving to drink. One part wants to stay out of the casino and another craves it. One part that wants healthy behavior and another that is caught in a behavior pattern that is unhealthy.

 

These two parts seem to be in in ...

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Individuality is the Key

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Individuality is the key AND the lock it seems.

Be Yourself! That sounds like a cat poster but it gets overused for a reason. It is the major key to understanding and gaining ground in personal growth.

There are so many general guidelines to finding the best path. The teachings of a religious belief, The Twelve Steps, in both the original form and newer Integral Twelve Steps, and the bulging “Self Help” section of the bookstore (aka Amazon). All of these resources ...

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It Is So Much More

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I like words. I like to delve deeper into the meaning of words. The root of words in old language is always interesting and gives new perspective on their meaning. Not just for us but for society, who just takes the word for granted, and doesn’t have time to get wrapped up in the significance of what is really being said.
A simple example is the word DISEASE. it is a “DIS” ...
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First Things First

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I‘ve mentioned before the effectiveness and importance of 12 step programs. There is a strong reason that so many organizations have seen success with the 12 steps. They are more than a means of personal recovery, they are an effective road map for life. I feel it is important to emphasize that map metaphor. The map is not the journey. The interpretation of the 12 steps and other resources needs to be made for each person to develop their Continue Reading →

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