Who Is This “We” in “Me”? Question Everything.

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It seems that growth happens faster and faster as the attention leans more and more on easing up and is loosened from the grip of old ways of thinking. This easing up keeps coming as long as I follow some of the best advice I ever got from a bumper sticker. I love that advice…Question Everything. Especially what I might believe is already “figured out”.

I’m sure some of the people that have that bumper sticker are coming from a place ...

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The Source of Pain, Fear and Suffering

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In this process of facing our problems or “walking through our fire” as I have discussed here it becomes necessary to start to break down the language and ask ourselves what we mean when we say certain things that we assume are true. What is the source of my pain, fear and suffering?

First of all, what is pain? In order to answer that for myself, I had to ask, what is the opposite of pain? What is it for you? ...

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Let’s Get Real – A Personal Inventory

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Hooray! Fourth month, fourth step talk. As always my approach is a Personal Recovery Plan that includes counseling, group meetings/support and 12 step involvement. That mix is as individual as each person’s recovery and I always like to offer a balanced look at personally interpreting the 12 Steps for one’s own growth. Again I present the Wisdom Traditions Integral Twelve Steps along with the traditional as an inclusive approach more than comparative. Find the message for yourself that clicks for ...

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Going a Little Deeper

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I think it is important to say again that what I put forward here is what makes sense to me and I am in no way saying this is the way it is or being ‘preachy’ in any way. I offer my view point in the hope it resonates with someone and they develop their own “way” because that’s all we have that’s real and lasting.

I’m ready to go a little deeper into this topic of Higher Power that was ...

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Time for a Higher Power

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In following the suggestion that the most effective recovery programs include both 12 step program involvement and personal/group counseling. I want to present a look at the second step here. I commented on the first Step in the post First Things First.

As I stated there, these 12 Step Principles are especially effective when they are stated in an integral way. That is, non-specific to any one area of addictive or unhealthy behaviors that create a ...

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Moving Toward Clarity

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Our Starting Line is all about clarity. The clarity gained in recovery and all the new meanings that word has for us. The new meanings it has for us now and will have as we gain more of it.

There is clarity of thought of course. Not being dope sick, hung over or in full on regret and guilt mode over an unhealthy behavior is an obvious leap forward in clarity. Removing this weight frees the mind to use its energy ...

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Working Together With Ourselves

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When someone crosses the threshold of change, or even contemplates it, there is a sense of conflict. A battle between the two parts that seem to make up “us”. One part wants to be sober and one part keeps driving to drink. One part wants to stay out of the casino and another craves it. One part that wants healthy behavior and another that is caught in a behavior pattern that is unhealthy.

 

These two parts seem to be in in ...

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Individuality is the Key

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Individuality is the key AND the lock it seems.

Be Yourself! That sounds like a cat poster but it gets overused for a reason. It is the major key to understanding and gaining ground in personal growth.

There are so many general guidelines to finding the best path. The teachings of a religious belief, The Twelve Steps, in both the original form and newer Integral Twelve Steps, and the bulging “Self Help” section of the bookstore (aka Amazon). All of these resources ...

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It Is So Much More

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I like words. I like to delve deeper into the meaning of words. The root of words in old language is always interesting and gives new perspective on their meaning. Not just for us but for society, who just takes the word for granted, and doesn’t have time to get wrapped up in the significance of what is really being said.
A simple example is the word DISEASE. it is a “DIS” ...
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Caring for Your Self

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Thinking about our own self care and Self care is essential to our recovery.

I went looking at images and searched by “attention to self”. Interestingly this brought up almost all negative imagery of self hurt and psychological disorders. So apparently Google follows a rather popular social construct that attention to self is self-ish.

We were taught, “it is better to give than to receive” and self sacrifice is a virtue. While these are both true, it is also true that you ...

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