The Care and Feeding of Pet Peeves

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Make no mistake. It takes a good deal of our mental energy to maintain the little irritant places in our minds we like to call our pet peeves.

We can feel very indignant about having earned them and can justify them in a flash because we are so well rehearsed. But just like a pet of any variety they require nurturing and care on a regular basis. Then there is that factor of people actually looking like their pets. We can ...

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Boundaries – Yours, Mine and Ours

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Different ways of defining, developing, and refining boundaries is essential to self-development. There’s a lot of information out there. Here’s my take and my give.

As one continues a journey of truly exploring the experience of life and no longer merely coping in often unhealthy ways, different models and ways of thinking about the life experience present themselves. It is important to remember along the path that all of these ideas are just that; ideas, models and constructs. They are ways ...

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Flexing and Building our Awareness

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It feels good to be sitting down and writing again!

Entering into the winter in a genuine way today with a good dump of snow was a good reminder that it was time to step back into getting some thoughts down “on paper” since it is a big part of what keeps me moving forward in my own growth and building awareness. As I established in a post almost a year ago, First Things First , these monthly (or ...

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Completing Ourselves

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While we are never complete we are always engaged in the process of completing ourselves. I like the seemingly paradoxical words, the journey is the destination. By settling down into the feeling of just being on the journey though, we find the destination.

Continuing this particular journey of discussing the Traditional 12 Steps of AA and the Integral 12 Steps here slowed down a bit for a while. Now it seems that the other pathways that my energies are flowing down ...

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Keepin’ it Real – Core Values

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I have written about transparency here a good deal. Open honesty about feelings, beliefs and just the way things seem to be. All the things I used to bury. It seemed simpler that way. Other people’s opinions about me are none of my business…as they say. By living that way I get a certain weightlessness of spirit and things that could have collected up on me and become a “problem” rather just flutter away in the breeze, the flow of ...

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Is Freedom a Choice?

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I attended the Integral Twelve Step Meeting at Alaska Wisdom Recovery this week and the topic was freedom. The thoughts went down so many great branches! So many that today, while those branches spread, I am going back to the roots.

This Summer Solstice weekend also marks Fathers Day and my three-year anniversary of sobriety. I have talked about transparency here quite a bit and am going to offer up some more. It is what keeps me sober and with ...

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The Healing Work… Ready?

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This sixth month is bringing on… guess what… sixth step discussion! This is an exciting episode in our unfolding adventure! When we last saw our heroes they had completed an inventory in their fourth step and shared it in their fifth. Having their cards on the table they were ready to drop the front, become more transparent and allow real transformation to begin for themselves and in their lives.

As our heroes continue on their trek of destiny they spot two ...

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It’s About Transparency

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This journey to happy healthy life keeps leading me to transparency. I could call it openness, acceptance, honesty, truthfulness but transparency really works for me because it also goes to the lighter actual feeling of not being weighted by discord or things that don’t settle for us. The transparency and lightness of being that comes from not burdening ourselves with ideas that just aren’t true or expectations that just aren’t accurate. Or burying things about ourselves we know ARE true ...

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Who Is This “We” in “Me”? Question Everything.

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It seems that growth happens faster and faster as the attention leans more and more on easing up and is loosened from the grip of old ways of thinking. This easing up keeps coming as long as I follow some of the best advice I ever got from a bumper sticker. I love that advice…Question Everything. Especially what I might believe is already “figured out”.

I’m sure some of the people that have that bumper sticker are coming from a place ...

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The Source of Pain, Fear and Suffering

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In this process of facing our problems or “walking through our fire” as I have discussed here it becomes necessary to start to break down the language and ask ourselves what we mean when we say certain things that we assume are true. What is the source of my pain, fear and suffering?

First of all, what is pain? In order to answer that for myself, I had to ask, what is the opposite of pain? What is it for you? ...

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